Kismet is a fun word; much more fun than plain old fate. I mean really, who would want to say fate when they could say something cool like kismet.

So do you believe in kismet? And if so does that exclude the premise of freewill? I think that you can have kismet and freewill. The two should not be mutually exclusive. I believe that there are just some people we are supposed to meet, some events we are supposed to go through or witness, and that is kismet. It is up to us how we react, what we hold on to and what we let go of. I hate to beat a dead horse but I am about to be an under 30 divorcee and I would like to think that there is some kismet involved there and that while I have no idea why things worked out the way they did there is a reason somewhere.


The war has finished but nothing has changed

It takes about 20 minutes to pump breast milk every time I have to pump.

It takes about an hour to make dinner, do the dishes, and feed the baby every evening.

Seeing a movie in theaters takes about 3 hours no matter the length of the movie

There are 24 hours in a day

It takes about 3 days to finish a moderate embroidery project.

There are 7 days in a week

It takes roughly 14 days to get paid.

It takes 21 days for a new habit to form.

A Caterpillar will transform into a beautiful butterfly in about 28 days

It takes 28, 30, or 31 days to get to a new month

A dragonfly will live for about 4 months

Growing a baby takes about 9 months

Some babies learn to walk in just 10 months

A chameleon lives for about 1 year.

Some children are potty trained by the time they are 18 months old

554 days


19 months

That’s how long it takes me to go from one step to another. That would be how long it takes me to from separation to actually taking another step. Good grief.

Flimflam, its the word of the day!

Today’s word of the day:


Flimflam – To subject to deception or fraud

Flimflam, its the word of the day, What a fun word to say. Its not really a fun word to be on the other side of but it is a very fun word to say. One day, in the distant future that will probably be here before I know it I hope this is one of Carl’s vocabulary words. It’s funny, but actually fairly accurate that having a baby will change things. It changes your whole life. Just last year I would have been able to sit down and enjoy life while writing a blog post while being generally lazy before work. Now it takes a lot of planning to get ready for work, and get breakfast, and get the baby ready, and feed him, and make his bottles, and make sure his bag has been repacked, and clean up a little around the house all before I leave for work in the morning. Usually I try to fit in a little morning reading before all that happens and on a really good day I attempt to work on some project as well.

I wouldn’t trade what I have now for what I had then, fat thighs and extra weight and lack of sleep and all, but it is funny to reflect on the changes. However there are definitely things I would do differently. Too many times over the last year I have allowed myself to be flimflammed. Maybe it is my nature to just believe people at face value. I shouldn’t. I’ve seen the very worst in people but still I tend to want to believe that everyone has a greater nature and that greater nature will win out. Maybe it will. See there it goes again, that infernal optimism.

So flimflam. Use that in a sentence today!