Where is our empathy?

It is a sad and strange state of affairs that in the year 2014 we are still “slut shaming” and victim blaming women who have been treated unfairly, physically harmed or even brutalized. What does it say about society as a whole when we actually have to defend women like Jennifer Lawrence who had something private, something intensely personal, stolen and posted on the internet for all to see. I think I have read every sort of negative comment there is. I’ve seen everything from “If she didn’t want the pictures to become public she shouldn’t have taken them” to ” Its just pictures, what the big deal?”. There have also been many who have stepped up to defend these women, not just JLaw, who now have something very private out there for all to see. All I can think is that the people doing all of this victim blaming don’t understand the real situation.

These women took these pictures, in the privacy of their own spaces, with no intention of circulating them on the internet, or to groups of people they had never met. They took them with the INNOCENT intention of sharing them with a partner or maybe they were just feeling good about themselves that day. Someone, or a group of someones then went through a lot of trouble to break into their phones and steal those pictures and distribute them to the world. This is the exact same scenario as someone breaking into their homes and taking pictures of them against their will. This could happen to anyone. You do not have to be a celebrity for this sort of thing to happen to you.

The most disturbing thing to me about this whole scenario is that it can and will happen again. This sort of situation makes us feel as if nothing is private anymore. If you put something on the internet, or on your phone, or pretty much digitize it in any way it is vulnerable to hacking. We need to change our attitude toward victims of this sort of abuse because while this whole scenario has been shocking and sad and I feel so bad for these women, it will happen again. If we can change our perspective, let in some empathy rather than judgement, then maybe the next time it does happen these women will feel like they have a safe place to turn to rather than ridicule and opinions around every corner.

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Be Anything

Birthday Clown

Microbiology lab assistant

Babysitter

Tutor

Day camp counselor

Earth Science lab set up

Nursery worker

Teacher

Office manager

Seamstress

Play director

Children’s Minister

I have been all of those things. Sometimes several of them at once. More often than not in today’s economy young people such as myself have diversified themselves into several different jobs just to make ends meet. This is so amazing to me! We, none of us, have to choose just one path. We can and should feel free to diversify.

I know a physicist who has a BS and a Master’s in physics but what makes her stand out is not the fact that she is a woman in what is still primarily a man’s world, but that she put all of her skills on her resume, not just those necessary for the job she was applying for. She is a smart and talented physicist who also happens to work weekends as a balloon twister and birthday clown. She did not want to be just one thing and so she embraced her other talents and instead of making her less appealing to a hiring board it made her unique. I realize that not everyone’s gifts are quite so polar opposite of one another, but we should embrace them anyway.

The generations of adults before us had a completely different outlook on careers. My father was a mason. He was just one thing. He did that his whole life and then he retired.His father before him was a carpenter and it was a part of his identity. Our parents and grandparents were teachers, doctors, lawyers, nurses, secretaries, and a whole myriad of other things, but they trained for that position and then stayed in it their whole lives. Career stability was totally different. People were able to make ends meet and even flourish that way and I’m afraid that is less and less of the case today.

There are so many people looking for the same types of jobs these days. They all went to college. They all have a degree and student loans to go with it. They all are fairly skilled in their field so why aren’t they getting the job? I think that it basically boils down to their aren’t enough jobs a lot of times in fields other than Science and Mathematics and so the hiring pool is huge. How do you make yourself stand out? Gain new skills! And put them on your resume.

We are living in a unique time in which we have the opportunity and the means to be and do anything we want. The only limits upon us are the ones we place there. Is there some skill you have always wanted to learn? Go! Learn it! You never know when it will come in handy. Don’t pass up a job opportunity because it isn’t what you originally saw yourself doing. We rarely know what we want to do until we are already doing it? The amazing thing about being young and living in this generation is that if we take a job that is totally not right for us chances are we can find another one. Don’t look at new opportunities as a waste of time but rather a learning adventure! Are you doing what you love right now? If you aren’t then find a way to make it happen!

Have you had a job that you didn’t expect to like turn out to be just what you needed?

Rival: A Review

I read a lot. I read fiction and non fiction, romance and history and religion and suspense and science. I read all the time. I suspect that will only get worse in the coming months. One of the best books I have read lately is Rival by Penelope Douglas. This was her third book and I while I really enjoyed the first one and had a lot of fun reading the second one, it was Rival that really impressed me.

Rival is the third book in the Falling Away series. Bully and Until You, the first two books, tell Jared and Tate’s story. These are also the books that we are introduced to Madoc and Fallon, as well as Jared and KC. Madoc is basically an Abercrombie model with attitude. Fallon is such a cool, nerdy, skateboarder. Their story is beautiful, and heartbreaking, and perfect.

We meet Madoc and Fallon two years after they first got together. They have been living entirely separate live with absolutely no contact. Fallon just up and disappeared one day. To make things more complicated they are step siblings to parents who don’t seem interested in being married or their children.  Madoc is having one last hoorah of a Summer before heading off to Notre Dame and all of the sudden, out of the blue, in pops Fallon, in his house and Madoc is being ordered not to go home. Madoc and Fallon didn’t part ways on the best of terms.

Within the first hundred pages there are scenes that will have you hooked on Penelope Douglas if you weren’t already. She is such an amazing author and she has truly outdone herself with this book. Madoc and Fallon have grown up from where they were at 16 and while they have issues to get through they do it with such beauty and grace as is rarely seen in people much older than themselves. Rival is beautiful. Go check it out for your self. You can purchase it here. Also Penelope Douglas is doing a blog tour for Rival this week. You can follow her here.

Happy Reading!

 

Scrap Stash Musings: Scrappy Frame Craft Display

Hello all!

I am trying to get back into the swing of Scrap Stash Musings posts because they are some of my favorites! Today’s scrappy post is a redesigning of a plain picture frame into something awesome!

To make this you will need a plane wooden frame (sorry no before pics)

A basket o scraps

some hot glue

some rick rack and ribbon

push pins

What I did when making mine was cut or tear the fabric into strips. The strips do not have to be all the same size, but it helps if they are longer. You could use all one type of fabric or just extra scraps like I did. Once I had a pretty good pile of strips I started at a corner, attached the strip with glue in the back and started wrapping it around the frame. Then you just repeat until you are finished with the whole frame. You can then add the rows of rick rack and ribbon. I did this with push pins and hot glue but there isn’t one right way.

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My frame is a display for selling my wares at craft shows. I am not entirely done with it as I would like to have it stand on its own,but from now I really like it.  I may also add a fabric backing. You could use this frame for displaying pictures, or hanging notes or whatever you like now that it has been prettified. Let your imagination run wild.

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Here is a shot of how it looks with my whole display.

 

30 Day Blog Challenge!

Good morning! I’ve decided to do the 30 day blog challenge. I’ve had a hard time staying focused and I really want to write more so I thought this would be a good way to accomplish some of that. I am going to do it a little differently though. Instead of writing about one of these things every day I am going to use these prompts in order on the days that I have not picked a different topic or I will incorporate them into what I wanted to blog about on any given day. I think it shall be fun. Some of the prompts are silly, all are fun though. I think when I am finished I shall make my own 30 day challenge!

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  1. A photo of yourself and a description of how your day was.
  2. A photo of something you ate today.
  3. Your favorite store.
  4. Your favorite photograph of your best friend.
  5. A photo of yourself two years ago.
  6. A photo of an animal you’d love to keep as a pet.
  7. Your dream wedding.
  8. A song and photo to match your mood.
  9. A photo of the item you last purchased.
  10. A photo of your favorite place to eat.
  11. What’s in your makeup bag?
  12. A photograph of the town you live in.
  13. Your favorite musician and why?
  14. A TV show you’re currently addicted to.
  15. Something you don’t leave your house without.
  16. A photo of you and your family.
  17. Your celebrity crush.
  18. Something you crave a lot.
  19. Another picture of yourself.
  20. The meaning behind your blog name.
  21. A photo of something that makes you happy.
  22. Bullet your whole day.
  23. 20 facts about you.
  24. What’s in your purse?
  25. Something that you miss.
  26. Think back to how you were five years ago. How have you changed since then?
  27. Put your iPod on shuffle and list the first 10 songs.
  28. Your favorite movie.
  29. Something you could never get tired of doing.
  30. A photograph of yourself today + three good things that have happened in the past 30 days.

 

Scrap Stash Musings Saturday! DIY Cup Cozy

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I know it feels like forever since I wrote about anything to do with scrappy fabric projects so I thought I would give you all a sneak peak into what I have been doing with my fabric scraps.

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IMG_1065All of these cup cozies were made entirely with pieces of scraps from my monstrous scrap basket. My favorite is the vintage crocheted flower one, but I love them all. These are available in my Etsy shop but if you all want to make a neat cup cozy of your own here are a few great tutorials.

Crafty Staci is by far the queen of the cup cozy. She has several tutorials, but I really like this one. Here is another scrappy cozy tutorial. However you decide to make it they are fun and easy and it is the time of year that we all want to curl up with something warm. They also make great gifts. I think I am going to make a ton more!

Don’t forget to check out my Scrap Stash Musings board on Pinterest!

What are you all crating this weekend?

 

WIHBWO! or What I have been working on…or needs catchy title

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This has been a crazy week. I pretty much spent all of last week and weekend getting ready for a festival and then all day Monday out in the blistering heat. It did not go as well as I might have hoped but it did give me a lot to share with you that I have currently been working on.

I spent a lot time finishing up hoop art projects and starting new ones.

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The wee houses on branches with button flowers is one of my favorites. The houses are made with felt and hand embroidered.

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Another neat thing I made last week was this awesome tribute to the liquid that keeps me going.

 

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I bought some really neat felted wool Fleur De Lis in Montgomery months ago but hadn’t found anything to do with them until this week. I really like the way this turned out.

What have you all been working on?

 

 

Book Review: A Whole New Crowd

I admit that I was a little bit skeptical at first. I had read Tijan’s Fallen Crest books and I really enjoyed them, then I read Jaded and it was completely different which was a little shocking. I feel sort of odd reading books written about teenagers, but I got over that after the awesomeness sank in. The plots are rich and the characters are unique. When I heard about A Whole New Crowd I was excited, but a little skeptical. Its a stand alone, not related to any of the characters I know and love and cant wait to continue to read about. I kept thinking “Why can’t this be Fallen Fourth Down?”. I’ve been salivating over that book a while obviously. I purchased AWNC anyway, just because I hoped it would be as amazing as her other works and I needed a good book fix. I’ve been reading some heavier things lately and I like to have balance.

Pretty much from the very beginning it is not what you expect. Taryn is so different from what I could have expected. She is strong, and independent, and a little broken. She grew up in the foster system, which is not a picnic. Being the survivor that she is, she went out and found a family. She found a boyfriend and friend that she considered a brother. The only problem was that the world they were involved in was not a safe one. Then out of the blue, out of seemingly nowhere, she is adopted right before she turns 18. Not only is she adopted, but she is adopted by a nice, well off, seemingly stable family with two ready made siblings. Taryn has a lot of adjusting to do. She has a new family, a new school, and new love interests that are completely different from what she left behind. The thing about the past is that it eventually catches up to you.

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I really recommend AWNC. Whether you love Tijan’s books or just love a good suspenseful romance, this is the book for you. Tray is absolutely everything ladies love. He is kind, loving and patient and exactly what Taryn seems to need. There are a lot of good books out there. This is one of the great ones. I’m giving it an 8 out of 10!